They’re the key to the intimate connection your relationship is craving.
My new-ish partner is an ER doctor who currently has monthly four-day, 16-hour marathon shifts.
So we take space.
Stocksy / Design by Camden Dechert
Or, more accurately, we took space.
When we were newly dating, that felt okay.
We were livingcompletelyseparate lives a quarter of the time.
We were both feeling totally disconnected, even when we were sleeping next to each other.
Does that feeling sound familiar?
Hint: you dont have to be spending weeks away from your partner for the answer to be yes.
Why does this all matter?
Because it happens to everyone, especially in this unprecedented era.
What happens when youre working alongside a partner every day?
Enter: The couples check-in.
I discovered this concept on my feed one day, thanks to wellness entrepreneurSophie Jaffe.
So theyre obviously pros when it comes to cultivating connection in trying times.
What Does Checking In Mean?
Jaffe defines a couples check-in as something that helps two people in a relationship “drop-in” and connect.
Final Thoughts
Ive never (yet!)
left one of our check-ins upset.
But it is important to note that this isnt the time to skirt around an issue.
The check-in is the time to be real with your significant other.
If asking for support in a certain area feels funny or could activate your partner, say it.
Thats what makes the check-in effective.
This isnt about anything youre fixing or anything your partner has done “wrong.”
While its not ideal, there is also no time for us to connect in real-time on those days.
By utilizing the app, we can see each other’s eyes, tears, and chuckles.
Now, get connecting love birds.
And drop Jaffe and me a note if you have questions or want to share successful check-in moments.
